Unsportsmanlike Parenting

yelling refLast season was pretty bad in the northern communities of NM for embarrassing outbursts by family members in the stands. Parents have gotten verbally out of line and even attempted to assault coaches, refs, other players. It could turn out to be a good thing for us in the more civilized area of Southeast New Mexico.

Let’s be honest, we have seen our share of bad behavior here. It is sometimes worse in summer leagues than it is in school athletics. It happens everywhere. It is also a great leveler of socio-economic status. Bad behavior is seen coming from upscale wealthy households and from much more modest homes. As far as I can tell it occurs at about the same rate everywhere in town.

I would like to make the call for a written code of behavior. Up to now it has been left to common decency to curb the worst impulses of emotional parents. What they are working towards up north is a written guide for what is not acceptable. Maybe writing it out and having parents sign on to it at the beginning of the season will make people think about it and be aware exactly what is acceptable and what is not. A few teams and leagues have a start on this, but I think we need it everywhere.

Sports are about rules. You can’t have a game without them. As New Mexicans and Americans, we are communities who work best when we respect the rules. In this case it’s about respecting our young athletes. It is the most important thing we can teach them.

Jerry Flores
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Carlsbad, NM 88220

3 Responses

  1. with my kids being in sports we are asked to sign a paper that has rules
    on parents behavior. It is just alot of parents either just sign and don’t
    read or they just can not behave in a decent manor. Hard to say which it
    is. Unfornuatly they have even gone as far as you can’t even yell positive
    things to the kids. Makes you wonder what the games are about anymore. Is
    it to play and have fun or only out there to win at any expense?

    Sports Mom - August 7th, 2009 at 6:58 am
  2. I like it. and it is so true. this should open the eyes of many.

    Baseball Coach's Wife - August 7th, 2009 at 6:59 am
  3. I am reminded of an episode of South Park, in which the boys have all been forced into playing baseball by their parents, who use it as an excuse to drink and carouse. One of the boys’ fathers has made it his goal in life to get as trashed as possible at every game, then get in a fist fight with some other parent; his eventual goal being to fight and win at every game up to and including the state championship. He, as a parent, obviously has no concept of the negative impact he has, not just on his own child, but on the team and the game as a whole. I know this is a bit of an extreme example, but it’s easy to see from where this exaggeration was derived.

    Sum-Noob - August 10th, 2009 at 11:16 am

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